Jewish Dating….a dreaded time for so many. How to meet, when to meet, and where
to meet, are the questions that arise. Jewish Dating is the key. For some it is
easy, you meet while going to school. But once you get out to the "real world" how
do you go about this.
You have spent the last few years in school to get an education, and then you put
all your energy into the career that you dreamed about. You wake up one day and
find that you are in your 30's or even your 40's and you realize you are at the
next exciting stage of your life. What do you do, in the world of Jewish Dating?
You know that you want to meet someone, start a family, but all your hours are spent
working. When you go out, the chances of meeting someone are not in your favor.
Or you may be part of the percentage out there, that you did get married young and
have your family, now your are divorced and want to meet someone again. The difficulties
of not only being single but having children and "baggage" make for Jewish dating
Other factors are considered as well, because not only do you want to find someone
Jewish, there are so many religious affiliations, you also need to find someone,
who is within your level of Judaism. Jewish Dating…So now, not only do you have
to find someone with similar characteristics, a certain education level, background,
whatever, you need to find someone who is into Jewish Dating, within the religion,
the same way that you are.
So what are your options in Jewish Dating? The traditional way, to have a friend
introduce you, through work, school…meeting at a party. But when this doesn't work
where do you turn for Jewish dating?
Depending on where you live you may be more limited, but options are available for
Jewish Dating. Local Jewish Community Centers, checking out your synagogue/temple
if they run programs for Jewish Dating – such as Speed-Dating, Jewish organizations
are developing ways to help people meet through outdoor activities, such as skiing
or hiking groups and Personal ads on-line and in local papers. If you have the money
and love to travel, Singles Organizations plan single's cruises, trips. You can
see the world and maybe meet your future spouse.
But it seems like the way to go right now, the Jewish Dating method that is increasingly
accessible in the Jewish Dating world is online dating. You can choose from so many
different services, for Jewish Dating. JDate, eharmony, jlove, jewishfriendfinder,
TotallyJewish, or Jretromatch.com which uses paid matchmakers to set Jews up is
based on the successful SawYouAtSinai.com.
What works and what doesn't, in Jewish Dating? In the world of Jewish Dating, you
must be willing to go out there and try everything. For some joining an on-line
service, within no time they will meet there partner, for someone else they will
meet through friends.
Things to remember: Does it hurt to speak with someone on the phone; you never know
who your match will be? Meet up with them, one phone conversation doesn't give you
the best way of getting to know someone. Flexibility – try to be a little more…Jewish
dating is difficult but if you limit yourself to Postal Codes/Zip Codes, you probably
won't meet. Relocation, yes it is difficult, but depending on where you live it
may be hard not to be open for it. Also take into consideration, that some woman
may be the higher earner, maybe consider moving to the area where it will benefit
both of you. What you may consider to be your ideal match won't be. Especially as
we get older, try to be a little more open minded and honest with yourselves, if
you aren't serious then don't put someone through this. Jewish Dating is difficult
enough don't get into it and say you are serious if you are not.
Options are out there, but by sitting around and waiting, you will not meet anyone.
By taking a proactive role to Jewish Dating, and getting involved you will maximize
your chance of finding your match. If you enjoy being active join the groups with
different activities, you may not meet your partner, but you will get out and have
some fun, and maybe meet some really nice people. It may take time, and it may be
quite frustrating, but so is life… this is just the beginning to the challenges
and exciting times that lie ahead. Jewish Dating, a time to enjoy, look forward
to, as ultimately you are looking for your soul mate, your best friend, your partner.
So have fun in the world of Jewish Dating…
Lesley has been working as a Jewish
Matchmaker on the JRetroMatch and works with Jewish Singles all over the world. She has been working
in Social Services for the past 20 years in different capacities. Getting married
at age 40 has brought her to experience first hand the world of dating for an extended
period of time and hopes that her experiences can be helpful to others. She is the
proud mother of 4 children, two being step children and looks forward to helping
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