February 12, 2008
The expert: Marc Goldmann, founder of JRetroMatch .com, a Jewish dating site that
combines the personalized element of hands-on matchmakers with the convenience of
The product: First-date
What I want: A place that's fun, relaxed and - most important - gives the couple
an opportunity to talk. The last thing you want to do is go somewhere too loud and
crowded to have a comfortable conversation.
I must have: Ask your date if he or she has any preference when it comes to restaurants or activities - this shows thoughtfulness and consideration, two qualities you want to convey on a first date (and beyond!).
What I hate: Movies, bars, dance clubs, parties. Those are big first-date "don'ts" since they go against the cardinal rule of letting a couple talk. Overly romantic candle-lit restaurants are too stuffy and serious for a first date. And for those considering family get-
togethers as a first date: Don't do it!
Savvy shopper: Do your homework. You don't want to go somewhere and realize it's closed for renovations, packed to the gills or you won't be seated because you didn't make a reservation. It's great if you can incorporate a fun activity you both enjoy (like a museum visit or skating): The mood will be more relaxed, and you're sure to have a good time together.
My pick: Honu Kitchen & Cocktails' fun Hawaiian theme provides the perfect first date vibe. Elegance and charm - qualities we all look for in a date (dinner for two averages $110, 363
Next best thing: Sweetwaters is a great relaxed place, with a newly expanded space and menu. Their desserts for two are pretty special and guaranteed to put a smile on both of your faces (dinner for two, $70-$125; ladies receive a rose on Valentine's Day; 470 Wheeler Rd., Hauppauge, 631-348-0808).
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